Your ethical will: What is a good person?

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What is a good person?

Well, that is quite a question isn’t it?

I somehow hesitate to answer it, because, who am I to judge? Who am I to say what is good or bad or evil?

I often quote Shakespeare’s Hamlet: 

“There is nothing either good or bad

It’s only our thinking that makes it so”

The same goes for there not being either good or bad people. It is only our thinking that makes us consider someone good and someone else bad. 

As Alexandr Solzhenitsyn so eloquently wrote: 

“If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.”

Alright, now that we have concluded that there is no such thing as a good or a bad person (unless our thinking makes it so) and that good and evil cuts through, rather than between us…

What is a good person then?

One answer in Steve’s book goes:

“I never lie to my kids or cheat on my taxes. But if I needed to lie to protect my family, such as many Jews did during the Holocaust, then I would without question. And I’d still consider myself a good person.”

So what’s my answer?

What immediately comes to mind is the saying: 

Live and let live. 

One of my book releases had that theme. Maybe you were there?

Live and let Live is something I want to live by. It goes hand in hand with the quote by Hamlet above. Who am I to say what is good or bad, right or wrong, for someone else?

To me, a good person lives and lets others live in whatever way they choose. 

Another definition that comes to my mind are the 10 characteristics of highly evolved beings as described by Neale Donald Walsh. Out of these 10 I choose 3 to describe what a good person is to me: 

A good person treats everyone and everything with great care and respect.

A good person doesn’t bring anyone to justice. They do not punish.

A good person reaches out with love, knowing that only love heals all wounds and transforms people. 

Now, let me know what you think. 

What is a good person for you?


How to find time in May - give yourself enough sleep

Have you every stayed up late to finish “just one more thing”?

Have you put the alarm ridiculously early one day to get some work done before the rest of the family wakes up?

If you often give yourself less sleep than you need, you may be fooling yourself into thinking you are efficient, but you are really just increasing waste time while slowly wearing yourself out.
This month I help you make (not waste!) time by giving yourself enough sleep.

Find time in May by giving yourself enough sleep to be efficient, beautiful, and healthy.

Follow the tips in the video to create good pre-requisites to sleep.

Going deeper

To go deeper, you can read the book Why we sleep by Matthew Walker.  You can start by checking out the 9 min summary by Productivity Game on YouTube.

I hope you will become efficient with your time and stay healthy by giving yourself enough sleep, following these pieces of advice!

For more help to get more done with less effort and deeper joy, you can read or listen to my book Beyond Efficiency.

Do you already have the book and want to talk to me and others about how to apply what you are learning? Join the monthly Timefinder Coaching Sessions!

Take care of yourself, your time and your life.