tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11397190916144500142024-03-01T15:40:04.838+01:00Annikas Läsare och LyssnareWelcome to Annikas Läsare och Lyssnare (Annika´s Readers and Listeners): AnnikasLoL.
In this blog I share stories about time, life and leadership. Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.comBlogger462125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-10229016186730762332024-02-28T06:00:00.002+01:002024-02-28T06:00:00.135+01:00 Dare to love and not be loved<blockquote>"Over the years I have learned to dare not to be loved by everyone," says Olle Carlsson, a priest used to challenging the status quo. </blockquote>But daring not to be loved is hard, isn't it? <br /><br />At the same time, it's impossible to be loved or even liked by everyone.<div> </div><div><br /><span style="font-size: medium;">When I help ambitious knowledge workers get more done with less effort and deeper joy, I help them choose what to do and what not to do. Sometimes this means saying no, which can be scary. </span><br /><br />Why? <br /><br />For the reason I just mentioned. <br /><br />We are often afraid to say no for fear of not being liked. <br /><br />This is instinctive, as I explain in my webinar <i><span style="color: #ffa400;">How to powerfully say no</span></i>. But, like many fears, it is unhelpful. <br /><br /><span style="font-size: medium;">Contrary to what we may believe, being a people pleaser will not make us loved, and it definitely won't make us respected.</span><br /> <br />It takes courage to risk being disliked. <br /><br />It also takes courage to love. <br /><br /><br /><blockquote><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaODoCtH9xZtD-zmxxe6XhtyUiMvBAS_dY-d0uMS8GoPKtfzmlEavionKpMZyEcwrGCXmObnXS6wRHBiQ_M8ip-HsZ7lSsTXeXJ9Vgd-GVKvqLBSZlYEYvG-G6nKe6ht4eK4gcV7NUQLIzaKNBbuYs-pXpHdS4BBIPm2jA7IgdZUkMePHxg197FTtq04q5/s1080/Dare%20to%20choose%20dare%20to%20love.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaODoCtH9xZtD-zmxxe6XhtyUiMvBAS_dY-d0uMS8GoPKtfzmlEavionKpMZyEcwrGCXmObnXS6wRHBiQ_M8ip-HsZ7lSsTXeXJ9Vgd-GVKvqLBSZlYEYvG-G6nKe6ht4eK4gcV7NUQLIzaKNBbuYs-pXpHdS4BBIPm2jA7IgdZUkMePHxg197FTtq04q5/w400-h400/Dare%20to%20choose%20dare%20to%20love.png" width="400" /></a></div></blockquote><p> </p><blockquote><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiaODoCtH9xZtD-zmxxe6XhtyUiMvBAS_dY-d0uMS8GoPKtfzmlEavionKpMZyEcwrGCXmObnXS6wRHBiQ_M8ip-HsZ7lSsTXeXJ9Vgd-GVKvqLBSZlYEYvG-G6nKe6ht4eK4gcV7NUQLIzaKNBbuYs-pXpHdS4BBIPm2jA7IgdZUkMePHxg197FTtq04q5/s1080/Dare%20to%20choose%20dare%20to%20love.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a></div>Going back to Olle Carlsson, he says of his partner Fotini that she is "too young and beautiful for me, but we are inseparable". He goes on to say that she is brave enough to love him despite what people around them think. </blockquote><i><span style="color: #2b00fe;">Do you dare to say no, even if someone does not like it? <br /><br />Do you dare to love the person your heart chooses for you? </span></i><br /><br />I hope so.</div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-23427559847242226882024-02-14T06:00:00.001+01:002024-02-14T06:00:00.343+01:00People pleasing doesn't guarantee popularity<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Do you ever say yes, when you want to say no?</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;">If you do, maybe you do it to be kind or to be liked. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400; font-size: medium;">Only - that approach comes at a price and doesn't necessarily work...</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;">I hope you will find this short (just a little more than one minute) video useful. </span></p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/pUffrOpUVJQ" width="320" youtube-src-id="pUffrOpUVJQ"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-76664808136125863882024-01-24T06:00:00.005+01:002024-01-24T06:00:00.146+01:00Why hold back when you can give it all?<blockquote>"I see a musician in you, but not a singer."</blockquote><div>Manuel Provençal, who helps leaders in one of my leadership programmes to free their voices, was told this when he was a student at the Conservatoire de musique et d'art dramatique du Québec.</div><div><br />The teacher wasn't questioning Manuel's voice, she was referring to the fact that Manuel didn't show his emotions. <span style="color: #2b00fe;">To touch the hearts of an audience, you need to show a little of your own.</span> Manuel didn't do that. He kept his emotions in check, not feeling them, not showing them. <br /><br />When he understood that this behaviour was no longer protecting, but limiting him, he decided to overcome his fears. It was time to grow as a person. <br /><br /><span style="color: #ffa400;">When he began to feel and show his emotions, he could be both a musician and a singer. </span>Manuel has since sung in operas such as Mozart's Don Giovanni and Verdi's La Bohème. <br /><br />This video (created for my latest book release) is a perfect illustration of Manuel as a focused but seemingly "cold" musician vs Manuel as a singer - showing his heart so much that he touches ours.</div><div><br /></div><div> <br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/ld7WSpHKsZY" width="320" youtube-src-id="ld7WSpHKsZY"></iframe></div><br /><br /><span style="color: #2b00fe;">There may be times when it is a good idea to be the focused musician. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: #ffa400;">Other times it might be great to be the singer, to show your heart. <br /></span><br /><b><i>I hope you dare to do and be both.</i></b><br /></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-54047955803135674472023-12-27T06:00:00.000+01:002023-12-27T06:00:00.136+01:00Your ethical will: What will your final blessing be?This series of blog posts is inspired by Steve Leder's book <i>For You When I am Gone</i>. <br /><br /><br />When I set out to write and share these blog posts, I didn't really know what to expect, but I have enjoyed the reflection and clarity it has given me. I hope you have enjoyed your own journey as you have followed me through these questions. <br /><br /><br /><span style="color: #444444;">We have come to the final question. <b>What will your final blessing be?</b><br /></span><br /><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br /></span><h4 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">To answer this, imagine that you can attend your own funeral and whisper a final blessing to your loved ones. What will you say to them?</span></h4><br /><br />Here are a few examples from the book:<br /><br /><blockquote>Be kind to each other, take care of each other, and never forget how important your family is to your life.</blockquote><br /><blockquote>Please take care of my wife. I can’t be there for her now - so I beg you to grant her comfort and respect the fullness of your love. Please be blessings to each other, celebrate with each other, stay close to each other. </blockquote><br /><blockquote>Find work you enjoy well enough and perform it with integrity. Dance, sing, and swim with abandon - especially in foreign waters. Travel to expand your heart and understanding of others. Listen to live music. Let loose sometimes.</blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsBvfGdWOEpqkX4vCAw0EY_BnZhOqD9rcdopeOd_FzUEMp7imhB3P5tNK53mgyhJH0ywGTonPH_67Tnq0UFkkhyWTpOMh3bBZv6OhxsjjT_k8-jYgSTbdNqGno0z0HlD3xMGqNuO4Viou_8Jqz0JlJFTeVnZ5b7MEAM0tCiKbCAXWWF12KEDBRKd1PKffv/s1080/What%20will%20your%20final%20blessing%20be.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsBvfGdWOEpqkX4vCAw0EY_BnZhOqD9rcdopeOd_FzUEMp7imhB3P5tNK53mgyhJH0ywGTonPH_67Tnq0UFkkhyWTpOMh3bBZv6OhxsjjT_k8-jYgSTbdNqGno0z0HlD3xMGqNuO4Viou_8Jqz0JlJFTeVnZ5b7MEAM0tCiKbCAXWWF12KEDBRKd1PKffv/s320/What%20will%20your%20final%20blessing%20be.png" width="320" /></a></div></blockquote><br />As soon as I understood the task - to imagine what I would say to my loved ones if I could speak to them at my funeral - I thought of the beautiful poem I first heard in the TV series After Life: <b>Immortality</b>.<br /><br /><br />That poem is what I would like to whisper into the ears of my loved ones at my funeral. <br /><br /><br />You can watch and listen to "Lisa's poem" from After Life <a href="https://youtu.be/qTaHzKShI3k">here</a>.<br /><br /><i><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><i>Immortality</i></div></i><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Do not stand</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">By my grave, and weep.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I am not there,</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I do not sleep—</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I am the thousand winds that blow</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I am the diamond glints in snow</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I am the sunlight on ripened grain,</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I am the gentle, autumn rain.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">As you awake with morning’s hush,</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I am the swift, up-flinging rush</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Of quiet birds in circling flight,</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I am the day transcending night.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Do not stand</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">By my grave, and cry—</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I am not there,</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">I did not die.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">/<span style="background-color: white; color: #202122; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"> </span><cite style="background-color: white; color: #202122; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: inherit;">Clare Harner, <i>The Gypsy</i>, December 1934</cite></div><br />Then I would add: <br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">Whenever you need me, just listen to your heart. I will be there. Always.</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div><h4 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #2b00fe;">What will you whisper to your loved ones as a final blessing? </span></h4><br /></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-46703866728634957032023-11-22T06:00:00.002+01:002023-11-22T06:00:00.208+01:00Your ethical will: What will your epitaph say?<h4 style="text-align: left;">Welcome to tell your life story by answering 12 questions!</h4>This series of blog posts is inspired by the book <i>For you when I am gone</i> by Steve Leder. <br /><br />Together we will answer one question at the time, giving us a story to share with our loved ones. We will also give ourselves a chance to reflect. Are we living according to our values? <br /><br />You are more than welcome to share your answer in a comment. <br /><br /><br />As Steve Leder puts it: <br /><br /><blockquote>Telling our stories is a way to share whatever meaning and joy we have found along the way, the depth of our love for others and for life itself. </blockquote><br /><span style="color: #ffa400;">To share our story with someone is to say, you matter to me. </span><div><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br /></span></div><br /><h4 style="text-align: left;">Question 11: What will your epitaph say?</h4>According to Steve, most of us feel like an imposter at some point because we are not really who others believe we are. To align as much as we can to our values, we need to know them well. Writing an epitaph while we are still alive can give us the clarity we need. <br /><br /><br />“Whether or not you plan to have a grave or a headstone, you can use the constraints they require to clarify your purpose: distilling the essence of your life down to four lines with no more than fifteen characters per line.”<div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6MYM95arqCJ9Hmfn3u2-4kIlL3u0dQJjR3Qu67Qz1uz9UPtBk88HI1nCgNwQN5XWXVVaZk-k9bltXjgl_pLGv1hg2skqAENOaKosIx17ufgz1xOcptbfMqZucoJ4tYFyzv1aQoI45wAHeNB_VBsr3R9DTR2Ru1s7OOrGlhdzlfyjM8V4Rz6x2k8VkE-IS/s1080/What%20will%20your%20epitaph%20say.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6MYM95arqCJ9Hmfn3u2-4kIlL3u0dQJjR3Qu67Qz1uz9UPtBk88HI1nCgNwQN5XWXVVaZk-k9bltXjgl_pLGv1hg2skqAENOaKosIx17ufgz1xOcptbfMqZucoJ4tYFyzv1aQoI45wAHeNB_VBsr3R9DTR2Ru1s7OOrGlhdzlfyjM8V4Rz6x2k8VkE-IS/w400-h400/What%20will%20your%20epitaph%20say.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div><br />Here are two examples from the book: <br /><br /><br /><blockquote>“Loving mother & Friend<br /><br /><br />Because nothing else matters.”</blockquote><br />***</div><div><br /><blockquote>“In the end, together again.”</blockquote><p>*** </p><br />It didn’t take me long to come up with the essence of my epitaph - but it took me a while to shorten it to fit into the epitaph format of 4 lines with up to 15 characters per line:<br /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">Touching hearts</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">& Opening minds</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">She loved</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">And was loved</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><span style="color: #ffa400; font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="color: #ffa400; font-size: medium;">What will your epitaph say?</span><br /><br />Are you living up to the words?<br /><br />If not, it’s never too late to change...<br /></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-19608612279808791532023-10-25T06:00:00.001+02:002023-10-25T06:00:00.148+02:00Your ethical will: What is good advice? <h4><span id="docs-internal-guid-fd7e4301-7fff-ffb7-6f4d-bd50c0880535">Welcome back to Twelve essential questions to tell a life story.</span></h4><span id="docs-internal-guid-fd7e4301-7fff-ffb7-6f4d-bd50c0880535">By joining me in twelve blog posts you will create what Rabbi Leder calls your ethical will.<br /><br />By answering the questions your loved ones will get to know you deeper and you will understand yourself better. </span><div><span><br /></span></div><div><span><span style="color: #ffa400;"><b>Let your memories bring meaning!</b></span><br /></span></div><p>To join – read the blog posts, reflect on the questions and write your own answers. You are very welcome to share them in the comments. </p><h2 style="text-align: left;">What is good advice?</h2>The more life experience I gather, the less advice I give - unless someone explicitly asks for it. <br /><br />For this exercise though, I get to share advice to those who will be around when I am gone.<br /><br />What Steve has in mind when he asks us to share good advice is to write down five sayings that encapsulate the accrued wisdom of our life experience. <br /><br /><div>I have collected such sayings ever since I was a little girl and my friend Eva and I wrote expressions and slogans down in notepads and shared them with each other. Nowadays I write them in the back of my Holistic Time Management Planner.</div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipgW8Ka2RX6V77ysb6PHUPMHdJFYWYN2ZGtin0ff6iV5HjwBQPvv5OJ75CyiwsRaL-3HHjaK8XYd4zCRI9gVD4-zraTpLZF27NSU0fCrPpRmtDtPypuE4DttfLjYU6KGq8PWKqDd4lKA0Paaeg6tcKPJOd6lSaE3necldT5qTW7ZX04LH9Laj3sXWQveSm/s1080/What%20is%20good%20advice.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipgW8Ka2RX6V77ysb6PHUPMHdJFYWYN2ZGtin0ff6iV5HjwBQPvv5OJ75CyiwsRaL-3HHjaK8XYd4zCRI9gVD4-zraTpLZF27NSU0fCrPpRmtDtPypuE4DttfLjYU6KGq8PWKqDd4lKA0Paaeg6tcKPJOd6lSaE3necldT5qTW7ZX04LH9Laj3sXWQveSm/s320/What%20is%20good%20advice.png" width="320" /></a></div><br /><br /><br />As Steve writes: <br /><br />“Aphorisms, expressions, proverbs, and slogans are crystalized wisdom to guide the people we love in life and long after with just a few simple and vitally important words.”<br /><br /><br />Before I tell you which ones I have selected, I will share five sayings from the book: <br /><div><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="color: #ffa400;">Above all, do no harm.</span></div><div><span>This is of course important for all of us. When I studied to become a life coach this was one of the first things we were told. </span></div><div><br /></div><div><span style="color: #ffa400;">Don't major in the minors.</span></div><div>I like this one since it is similar to the advice I give when I help people find time and energy: <span style="color: #ffa400;">Don't sweat the small stuff. </span></div><div><br /></div>Here are a few funny ones from the book: </div><div><br />The first rule of bankruptcy law.<br /><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br />“If something starts fucked up it usually ends fucked up. ”</span><br /><br />On respect: <br /><br /><span style="color: #ffa400;">The boss isn’t always right but (s)he’s still the boss.</span><br /><br />On doctors and auto mechanics:<br /><br /><span style="color: #ffa400;">If they look, they find. </span><br /><br /></div><div><h3 style="text-align: left;">Here is my collection of advice for my loves ones:</h3><br />Remember that there is no reality, only perception. As Hamlet said:<br /><br /><span style="color: #2b00fe;">There is nothing either good or bad<br /><br />but thinking makes it so</span><br /><br />Leave out any judgement of yourself and others. I like what Dale Carnegie said:<br /><br /><span style="color: #2b00fe;">Any fool can criticise, condemn and complain - and most fools do. </span><br /><br />There will be ups and downs in your life. You may not like every down, but you would not enjoy the ups without them. In the painful moments, remember what Winston Churchill said: <br /><br /><span style="color: #2b00fe;">If you’re going through hell, keep going. <br /></span><br />The walk through hell can be tough, but remember that <span style="color: #2b00fe;">while pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Let the pain flow through you rather than getting stuck deep inside. Dare to feel every emotion that comes to you.</span><br /><br />And most of all, always remember:<br /><br /><i><span style="color: #2b00fe;">Det löser sig. </span></i></div><div><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><br />It will work out. You may not know how or when, but it will work out. It always does.</span></div><div><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><br /></span></div><div>**</div><div><br /></div><div>Now it's your turn. </div><div><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div><i><span style="font-size: medium;">What 5 top sayings do you want your loved ones to keep in mind?</span></i></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-84692906178422796152023-09-27T06:00:00.001+02:002023-09-27T06:00:00.161+02:00Your ethical will: How do you want to be remembered?<h4 style="text-align: left;"><span id="docs-internal-guid-fd7e4301-7fff-ffb7-6f4d-bd50c0880535">Welcome back to Twelve essential questions to tell a life story. </span></h4><span id="docs-internal-guid-fd7e4301-7fff-ffb7-6f4d-bd50c0880535">By joining me in twelve blog posts you will create what Rabbi Leder calls your ethical will.<br /><br />By answering the questions your loved ones will get to know you deeper and you will understand yourself better. </span><div><span><br /></span></div><div><span><span style="color: #ffa400;"><b>Let your memories bring meaning!</b><br /></span><br />To join – read the blog posts, reflect on the questions and write your own answers. You are very welcome to share them in the comments.<br /><br /></span><h2 style="text-align: left;"><span>How do you want to be remembered?</span></h2><span><br />To my surprise, many people who were quoted in the book answered this question with specific details. For example: <br /><br /><blockquote>“I am hiking among tall redwood trees, wearing jeans and a sweatshirt. I am fifty years old, with my dog.”</blockquote><br /><br />If you have followed me long enough to know one of my favourite artists, you will understand why I like this answer: <br /><br /></span><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px; text-align: left;">“Maybe I am on the beach, it’s a warm day, and I’m in a long, flowy white dress. I am with Elvis.” </blockquote><span><br /><br /></span><div><span>When I think of my mother, I don’t think of her in one way, or at one age. It varies. Sometimes I see her as she looked in her sixties, sometimes as I remember her in her forties, and - surprisingly - sometimes I think of her in her twenties, the way I see her on photographs from that time.<br /><br />I don’t want to be remembered at a certain age or in particular clothes. I want everyone who remembers me to remember me in their own way.<br /><br /></span></div><div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixPoIkHDiK_Z1NKDB6Zc5owyrAj4FjZtlI9kYHjExqg3PrTmQDsCD7VnCrWRP7Aqe9E1XQWry1nqIK4TjEKj_zbcXfDqhkzHgSil996vW0m3J3PvQzaNgw7xLmlVs2wjpg3EMRl0pWI4s_tLMaVgLZ8p6oBawS0yGXkid_sto6FGX2WQGu2JmZ18t1Sq0x/s1080/How%20do%20you%20want%20to%20be%20remembered.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixPoIkHDiK_Z1NKDB6Zc5owyrAj4FjZtlI9kYHjExqg3PrTmQDsCD7VnCrWRP7Aqe9E1XQWry1nqIK4TjEKj_zbcXfDqhkzHgSil996vW0m3J3PvQzaNgw7xLmlVs2wjpg3EMRl0pWI4s_tLMaVgLZ8p6oBawS0yGXkid_sto6FGX2WQGu2JmZ18t1Sq0x/w400-h400/How%20do%20you%20want%20to%20be%20remembered.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /></div><div><div><br /><span style="color: #ffa400;"><b>I want my loved ones to remember my smile, my inner drive and most of all my love. And then I hope each and every person who has met me will have their own treasured memories and moments with me that they can look back on with a warm feeling in their heart.</b></span></div><div><br /></div></div><h4 style="text-align: left;"><span>How do you want to be remembered?</span></h4></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-82906899369959949442023-09-13T06:00:00.001+02:002023-09-13T06:00:00.158+02:00How to find time in September. Long term planningWelcome to How to find time in September!<br /><br />At this time of year we still have some time to achieve goals we set at the beginning of the year. <span style="color: #ffa400;">Long term planning </span>will help us get from where we are to where we want to be.<br /><br />This month I am going to tell you about <b><i>3 different ways of planning to achieve goals</i></b>. As I explain in the video, different approaches are suitable for different types of goals. <div><div><br /></div><div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/vBSHh993isQ" width="320" youtube-src-id="vBSHh993isQ"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br style="text-align: left;" /><h3><span style="text-align: left;">Tools and guidance</span></h3><span style="text-align: left;">After you have watched the video, decide what approach will help you best. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span><div style="text-align: left;">Do you know what you need to do to get to your goal?</div><div style="text-align: left;">Then use a <b><span style="color: #2b00fe;">work breakdown structure.</span></b></div></span><div style="text-align: left;">You can find a good description<span><span style="color: #0000ee;"> <a href=" https://www.workbreakdownstructure.com/">here</a></span>.</span></div><span><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Is it a goal you don't really know how to achieve?</div><div style="text-align: left;">Use a <span style="color: #2b00fe;"><b>problem statement and an issue tree.</b></span><br />Read this <a href="https://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-power-of-simple-problem-statement.html">blogpost</a> about how to use a problem statement and </div></span><div><div style="text-align: left;">Read this <a href="Link: https://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-importance-of-pruning-your-issue.html">blogpost</a> about how to use an issue tree.</div><span><br /><div style="text-align: left;">Is it a goal, or even a dream, where progress is more important than meeting a specific deadline?</div><div style="text-align: left;"><span>Use the <span style="color: #2b00fe;"><b>Vision-Next Step approach </b></span></span>I describe in the video.</div></span></div></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br style="text-align: left;" /><br style="text-align: left;" /><span style="text-align: left;">I hope you will enjoy finding time!</span></div><br /></div></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-67719808050181531802023-08-30T06:00:00.006+02:002023-08-30T06:00:00.138+02:00Your ethical will: Have you ever cut someone out of your life?Welcome to tell your life story by answering 12 questions!<br /><br />This series of blog posts is inspired by the book <span style="color: #ffa400;">For you when I am gone</span> by Steve Leder. <br /><br />Together we will answer one question at the time, giving us a story to share with our loved ones. We will also give ourselves a chance to reflect. Are we living according to our values? <br /><br />You are more than welcome to share your answer in a comment. <br /><br />As Steve Leder puts it: <br /><br />Telling our stories is a way to share whatever meaning and joy we have found along the way, the depth of our love for others and for life itself.<br /><br /><span style="color: #2b00fe;">To share our story with someone is to say, you matter to me. <br /></span><br /><div><br /></div><div><h2 style="text-align: left;">Question 8: Have you ever cut someone out of your life?</h2><div>The wording of the question sounds American to me. "Cut someone out of your life". I don't think we have an expression for that in Swedish. We might say that we avoid or dislike someone, but I can't really think of a similar expression to cut someone out.</div><div><br /></div><div>So why is this question included when we write something we want to share with our loved ones?</div><div>Steve explains it this way:</div><br />“...there are times when we courageously and sometimes painfully have to stand up for ourselves.” <br /><br />Here are some answers from the book: <br /><br />“Are we staying because of people-pleasing or thinking that we are someone’s last hope? That’s just ego-centred and not truly benefiting anyone. No, some of my most dramatic growth has come from those times that I have spoken, clearly and boldly, ‘You shall not pass’.”<br /><br />“Seeing each person for who they are, not who you need them to be, is the key to avoiding people who are not good for you. They may be good people, they just aren’t good for you.”</div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgaBgLuPbwHAPegucxzXTBYHiYzCW0bDDjzb-3X9FJWknCn7vyWf4By4T52mro2Nn4VB1DYvzP0QuhQqXtuIgG0Jeby3FLNgD2EQLFSaxllyI5YVsnzoBjXZwys-BfQI6TzzOX15cqIgK3rjFW6L0UTSQ3jrH-LvSpirpM5VJo_nj_s6w4ZdVuzFCsHDLMa/s1080/Have%20you%20cut%20someone%20out.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgaBgLuPbwHAPegucxzXTBYHiYzCW0bDDjzb-3X9FJWknCn7vyWf4By4T52mro2Nn4VB1DYvzP0QuhQqXtuIgG0Jeby3FLNgD2EQLFSaxllyI5YVsnzoBjXZwys-BfQI6TzzOX15cqIgK3rjFW6L0UTSQ3jrH-LvSpirpM5VJo_nj_s6w4ZdVuzFCsHDLMa/w400-h400/Have%20you%20cut%20someone%20out.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div><br /><div>I haven't cut anyone out of my life, but I have stood up for myself when I felt I needed to and avoided people who didn't feel right for me.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>The closest I ever came to cutting someone out was after a guy slapped me in the face. I was a teenager at the time and it shocked me. I had never been hit before (or since).</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Years later I saw a scene in a film where a man was hitting a woman. When she hit back, he grabbed her wrists and said:</div><div><br /></div><div>"Stop it. No matter how much you hurt me, I can hurt you more".</div><div><br /></div><div>It reminded me of the powerlessness I felt when I was hit by someone stronger than me.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>I didn't physically "cut him out of my life", but mentally I did. I stopped talking to him, I stopped caring about him. Years later, I found a way to forgive. I understood that he was full of pain. The slap had nothing to do with me, he just couldn't contain his anger and I got caught in the crossfire.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>This experience, along with living in a far from safe neighbourhood when I moved to Den Haag, made me learn jiu-jitsu. Of course I would rather stay away from any kind of violence, but I guess I was no longer sure that I could. Learning jiu-jitsu helped me to overcome the feeling of powerlessness I felt when I was hit.</div><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br />How about you?<br /><br /><br />Have you cut someone out of your life?<br /><br /><br />Have you stood up for yourself in a way that ended a relationship?<br /><br /><br />What did you learn from it?</span><br /><br /><br />Reflect and write down these important answers in your “ethical will”. <br /></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-55566543342891676832023-08-16T06:00:00.002+02:002023-11-29T18:12:34.315+01:00How to find time in August - fit in more with combinations<h2 style="text-align: left;">Welcome to How To Find Time In August! </h2>This month, I want to help you optimise the time you have. <br /><br />You may know by now that we all receive a <i>Glass of time</i> each week.<br /><br /><span style="color: #2b00fe;">To use the time in that glass well, we need to secure our Energy with Needs-time and our Enthusiasm with Want-time before we spend all available time on the things we feel we "should" do. </span><div><br /></div><div><div>This month I give suggestions on how to combine activities in your Needs-, Want- and "Shoulds" time. <span style="color: #2b00fe;">When you find good combinations you can fit more into your glass of time. </span><br /><br />There are many ways to combine different tasks. Before you listen to the tips in the video, <b>let me warn you about a common misunderstanding. <br /></b><br />Many people think efficiency means doing something every single minute of the day. They confuse efficiency with being busy. </div><div><br /></div><div><b><i>What I teach is not being busy, it is peacefully getting things done while enjoying each moment.</i></b></div><div> <br />Keep that in mind when you listen to the video for tips about putting children to bed, doing dishes, and cleaning the house in ways that are fun, meaningful and efficient.</div><div><br /></div><div><div><br /></div><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/YLcbBtWJz_Y" width="320" youtube-src-id="YLcbBtWJz_Y"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div style="text-align: left;">When you listen to the video, keep paper and pen with you (or use your computer with notifications and distractions turned off) and write down combinations you want to try out.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Remember, this is NOT about cramming in activities. That will just give you a false feeling of efficiency. Instead, focus on making each activity worthwhile and fun. We can multitask but we cannot multi-think as I describe in the blogpost <a href="http://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2019/12/multitasking-vs-multi-thinking.html">Multitasking vs. Multi-thinking</a>. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><h4 style="text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">I hope you will enjoy finding time with fun combinations!</span></span></h4></div></div></div></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><h3 style="clear: both; text-align: center;">Going deeper</h3></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">If you want to learn how to peacefully get more done with less effort and deeper joy I recommend you read my books about finding time. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"><b><a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/befe-order">Beyond Efficiency</a> - Escape the Efficiency Trap and become an amazingly effective and peaceful leader by paying yourself first with time. </b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"><b><br /></b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGDzCnbHrtdmpvevrrL8qrwMpUiAHbiH3wIT0tGH6yjFkPA1-tKu_OddKh1RAzpNDeXaNMOxbzSRZAqYL-pb67ibvuyX-zT0oNefm2XvmbSJuDUEQXQI8BTroEfAGv_gPbc7LPsYZBCtaOxpOUHM3k8n4esEc-ckTgvNMjM4Bbqmo7PoG6VETZcYJuH6iu/s694/Front%20of%20final%20cover.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="694" data-original-width="460" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGDzCnbHrtdmpvevrrL8qrwMpUiAHbiH3wIT0tGH6yjFkPA1-tKu_OddKh1RAzpNDeXaNMOxbzSRZAqYL-pb67ibvuyX-zT0oNefm2XvmbSJuDUEQXQI8BTroEfAGv_gPbc7LPsYZBCtaOxpOUHM3k8n4esEc-ckTgvNMjM4Bbqmo7PoG6VETZcYJuH6iu/s320/Front%20of%20final%20cover.png" width="212" /></a></div><br /><b><br /></b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"><b><br /></b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"><b><br /></b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">If you can read Swedish, you are welcome to read <b><span style="color: #ffa400;"><a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/vhdt">Visst har du tid</a>.</span></b></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhlb8lkcsB8L6t0kDDiVyVg5PnCeTXU3oTgAZGcsJPbkJ-I_qJdnKLuB_NwtZ11wAWqcQUIFZVlrsZrudSSyfG816saNwtkA6vyVUcF9rZZqIIivAA6QPPmtStBzSPa1Bp_aXLpSv02O4ImiSdbQtKcipMTCMm3pXW-v-hsaxzCC50F4HIHky5C3uaJriS/s1080/VHDT.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhlb8lkcsB8L6t0kDDiVyVg5PnCeTXU3oTgAZGcsJPbkJ-I_qJdnKLuB_NwtZ11wAWqcQUIFZVlrsZrudSSyfG816saNwtkA6vyVUcF9rZZqIIivAA6QPPmtStBzSPa1Bp_aXLpSv02O4ImiSdbQtKcipMTCMm3pXW-v-hsaxzCC50F4HIHky5C3uaJriS/w400-h400/VHDT.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><h4 style="text-align: center;"><br /><br /></h4></div><div><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="color: #666666; font-size: 15pt; text-align: center; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><br /></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-87771968156794229552023-07-12T06:00:00.002+02:002023-11-29T18:16:41.254+01:00How to find time in July - WINE analysis<h4 style="text-align: left;">Welcome to the first month of the second half of the year! </h4>This is a great month to reflect on what we have achieved and experienced in the first half of the year and what we want to achieve and experience in the second half. <br /><br /><div>To ensure you cover the areas that really make a difference - do a <span style="color: #ffa400;">WINE analysis</span>!<br /><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/gH3wcLdqB1s" width="320" youtube-src-id="gH3wcLdqB1s"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>What I suggest you do in July - together with your loved ones if you can - is to take time out, ideally two times one hour. Then do a WINE analysis.<br /><br />I am not referring to drinking wine, even if you're welcome to do that. </div><div><br /></div><div>I am talking about an acronym that will help you focus on areas that according to research are the areas we need to focus on to feel successful and fulfilled.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">Winning</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">Influence</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">Needed</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">Enjoyment</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><br />I'm also suggesting that you look at three life spheres since life is so much more than work, which is the area we typically set goals in. Look at your <span style="color: #ffa400;">personal and professional life as well as your relationships</span>.<br /><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEho_PUwHCtr40PTEPm992v5s6ML-R2Fyd0k6kNCzbhyrWlKXI6ZBk7_qTu-jBAeV8J98ewoPwBRhf6f-U6uVNJAqN1eNjFBuCvIaR2UAp41i5dHC_03Bv6F-Aa_Ot70o9CLWNcT6_duitiWDA_N6UzStgL9MPVZ57dbV_6iR0V6W8to8IBTW2UmTetF8o2S/s1324/WINE%20analysis%20example%20image.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="817" data-original-width="1324" height="394" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEho_PUwHCtr40PTEPm992v5s6ML-R2Fyd0k6kNCzbhyrWlKXI6ZBk7_qTu-jBAeV8J98ewoPwBRhf6f-U6uVNJAqN1eNjFBuCvIaR2UAp41i5dHC_03Bv6F-Aa_Ot70o9CLWNcT6_duitiWDA_N6UzStgL9MPVZ57dbV_6iR0V6W8to8IBTW2UmTetF8o2S/w640-h394/WINE%20analysis%20example%20image.png" width="640" /></a></div></div><br /><br />Use the first hour to <span style="color: #2b00fe;">reflect on the first part of the year</span>. What have you achieved, what have you experienced? I hope this exercise will make you <span style="color: #2b00fe;">happy and proud</span>.<br /><br /><br />The second hour (I suggest you do this another day, to let the first exercise sink in) you <span style="color: #2b00fe;">look ahead</span>. <br /><div><br /></div><div><span style="color: #2b00fe;">What do you want to achieve and experience the rest of this year in the different areas and life spheres? </span></div><div><br /></div><div>If done right, this exercise will give you guidance for the rest of the year and make you inspired and hopeful.</div><div><br /></div><div><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #676767; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0.9375rem 0px;">The template is available in my <b><i><span style="color: #2b00fe;">Holistic Time Management Planner </span></i></b>(available on Amazon).</p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #676767; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0.9375rem 0px;">If you don't have or want the planner, just create your own table. </p></div><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><b><i>Good luck!</i></b></span></span></p><div><br /></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-88970734696158072322023-06-28T06:00:00.001+02:002023-06-28T06:00:00.164+02:00Your ethical will: What is love?<h2 style="text-align: left;"> <span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome to tell your life story by answering 12 questions!</span></h2><span id="docs-internal-guid-5062cd7f-7fff-ab59-a5cc-1e626adf2d69"><blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">This series of blog posts is inspired by the book </span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">For you when I am gone</span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> by Steve Leder. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Together we will answer one question at the time, giving us a story to share with our loved ones. We will also give ourselves a chance to reflect. Are we living according to our values? </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">You are more than welcome to share your answer in a comment. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">As Steve Leder puts it: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Telling our stories is a way to share whatever meaning and joy we have found along the way, the depth of our love for others and for life itself. To share our story with someone is to say, you matter to me. </span></p><br /><h2 style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">What is love?</span></h2><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">As soon as I read the question, Haddaway started singing in my head. Yes, I do have some similarities with Jenny in my book <i><a href="https://amzn.eu/d/e4J5k7R">Love, Guilt, and Motorcycles</a> </i>(<i><a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/jenny-jenny">Jenny, Jenny</a></i> in Swedish). Haddaway’s <a href="https://open.spotify.com/track/2ahnofp2LbBWDXcJbMaSTu?si=bdda30a26fd34bc9">What is love</a> </span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">doesn’t answer the question though. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">This is one of the answers in Steve’s book: </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“Love is covered well by Corinthians, but I’ll take us back to my Mayan ancestry where love is defined in a greeting, ala kesh ala kin, which means ‘the light I see in you is the same light in me.’ I believe the sages of the ages when they say we are all made of love - and that when we connect to this light within ourselves, we are able to see it in each other.” </span></p></blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I find that to be a beautiful description. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The other descriptions Steve shares often describe actions. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote>“Love is picking up something at the grocery store that you don’t like to eat but that your husband adores.” </blockquote></span><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">and </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote>“Love is getting up in the middle of the night to hold [my wife’s] hair back when she’s sick and puking in the toilet and then cleaning up after she goes back to bed.”</blockquote><p></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Others describe love in feelings. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote>“Love is a feeling of belonging, of feeling just right.”</blockquote><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">and</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote>“...the butterflies in my stomach when I would see [my husband], the sparkle I saw in his eyes…”</blockquote><p></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I like words, yet, when I am asked to describe love, no words come. Maybe because words will inevitably fall short when trying to explain love. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHwN1qqNuVx2nzTBHykmkHGCn2d98kP2O8OEsWWnl4W4wQQSmDNdspg3l9rxbyDRFvSWRfAMyuSMrnazsWUCREYMlJ_We-UYSVVHM7847jWzM6K8EpBH4cYcuDmuW71tn68_8TyHu3MeqJ9L-NaQYCP9kJZIFIplY5FMkbPVqrV8UNAWHnojav5ZnZaw/s1080/What%20is%20love.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhHwN1qqNuVx2nzTBHykmkHGCn2d98kP2O8OEsWWnl4W4wQQSmDNdspg3l9rxbyDRFvSWRfAMyuSMrnazsWUCREYMlJ_We-UYSVVHM7847jWzM6K8EpBH4cYcuDmuW71tn68_8TyHu3MeqJ9L-NaQYCP9kJZIFIplY5FMkbPVqrV8UNAWHnojav5ZnZaw/w400-h400/What%20is%20love.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">As one person wrote in Steve’s book: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote>"Love is a state of being. Love, if we try to articulate what it means, shrinks."</blockquote><p></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">That’s why I can’t find the words to describe what love is. I don’t want to shrink it. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">So what is love to me?</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Love is everything. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Love is life. </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Love just is. </span></span></p></blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-size: medium;"></span></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><i>What is love to you? </i></span></p><div><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-2208255864545792032023-06-14T06:00:00.003+02:002023-11-29T18:19:02.479+01:00How to find time in June - Your relationship overviewHave you ever put your kids to bed, wishing they would fall asleep quickly so you could get back to all the things you still needed to do? <br /><br />If it is easy to feel that way. <br /><br />At the same time many parents wish they could spend more time with their children than they do and less time with people who drain their energy. <br /><br />This month I help you make the most of your time and energy by rethinking, reconnecting or cherishing your relationships.<div> <br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/DyLXhoLJAxk" width="320" youtube-src-id="DyLXhoLJAxk"></iframe></div><br /><div><br /></div><div><br />Find time in June by looking at the different relationships in your life and do one of 3 things for each one of them:<br /><br /><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Cherish the time you have together</li><ul><li>Allocate time for it and don’t waste it by thinking about something else when you are with your loved ones.</li></ul></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Reconnect with people you have lost touch with </li><ul><li>If you think reconnecting will give you energy and joy. </li></ul></ul><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Rethink the relationships that drain you. </li><ul><li>Can you forgive and let go? Can you set clear boundaries? Can you stop seeing a person or significantly reduce how often you meet?</li></ul></ul><br />You can use the section <i>Relationships</i> in the <i><a href="https://amzn.eu/d/ct0U2v9">Holistic Time Management planner</a> </i>or write your own table with people and actions in each category. (See the video for details).</div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="background-color: white; clear: both; color: #424242; font-family: "Times New Roman", Times, FreeSerif, serif; font-size: 14.85px; text-align: center;"><span style="color: #2b00fe; text-align: left;">Going deeper</span></div><div class="separator" style="background-color: white; clear: both; color: #424242; font-family: "Times New Roman", Times, FreeSerif, serif; font-size: 14.85px; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="background-color: white; clear: both; font-family: "Times New Roman", Times, FreeSerif, serif; font-size: 14.85px;"><span style="color: #424242;">I recommend Jack Pransky's book: </span><span style="color: #ffa400;">Parenting from the heart</span><i style="color: #424242;">.</i><span style="color: #424242;"> </span></div><div class="separator" style="background-color: white; clear: both; color: #424242; font-family: "Times New Roman", Times, FreeSerif, serif; font-size: 14.85px;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="background-color: white; clear: both; font-family: "Times New Roman", Times, FreeSerif, serif; font-size: 14.85px;"><span style="color: #424242;"><a href="https://www.ankushjain.co.uk/rsp-23-jack-pranksy-on-weatherproofing-your-relationship-dealing-with-jealousy/">Here</a> is an interview with Jack about how to </span><span style="color: #ffa400;">Weatherproof your relationship and deal with jealousy</span><span style="color: #424242;">.</span></div><br /></div><div><span style="color: #ffa400;">I hope you will find time and energy this month by managing and enjoying your relationships!</span></div></div><div><span style="color: #ffa400;"><br /></span></div>For more help to get more done with less effort and deeper joy, you can read or listen to my book <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/befe-order">Beyond Efficiency</a>.<br /><br />Do you already have the book and want to talk to me and others about how to apply what you are learning? Join the monthly <b><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/mgco-order">Timefinder Coaching Sessions</a></span></b>!<br /><br /><br /><blockquote><span style="color: #ffa400; font-size: medium;"><i>Take care of yourself, your time and your life. </i></span></blockquote>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-52381531934740799292023-05-24T06:00:00.001+02:002023-05-24T06:00:00.145+02:00Your ethical will: What is a good person?<p><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome back to </span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Twelve essential questions to tell a life story</span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">. By joining me in twelve blog posts you will create what Rabbi Leder calls </span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">your ethical will</span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-118f87db-7fff-d57d-0d61-f2dbb8ccb1e4"><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.9871999999999999; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 1pt 0pt 12pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">By answering the questions your loved ones will get to know you deeper and you will understand yourself better. Let your memories bring meaning!</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.9871999999999999; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">To join – read the blog posts, reflect on the questions and write your own answers. You are very welcome to share them in the comments.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.9871999999999999; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.9871999999999999; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome on an interesting journey!</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.9871999999999999; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><h3 dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #424242; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">What is a good person?</span></h3><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Well, that is quite a question isn’t it?</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I somehow hesitate to answer it, because, who am I to judge? Who am I to say what is good or bad or evil?</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I often quote Shakespeare’s Hamlet: </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">“There is nothing either good or bad</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">It’s only our thinking that makes it so”</span></span></p></blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #ffa400;"></span></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The same goes for there not being either good or bad people. It is only our thinking that makes us consider someone good and someone else bad. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">As Alexandr Solzhenitsyn so eloquently wrote: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">“If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.”</span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Alright, now that we have concluded that there is no such thing as a good or a bad person (unless our thinking makes it so) and that good and evil cuts through, rather than between us…</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">What is a good person then?</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2Ne4yEB4iMX9zd_RwDqrzjnn5gynPpPZcmWI7qeXK2Aaw2W_wne8L9FoZ99rXG_CGiKr8vzsKc6-0jHUFN7w0w3CDKSYbRJ3-0YSO1Os_DYTOzONEWwmThhZWw11xZ9R6ZJL_vx5wUHOsDdFIbsuDy5sl0t0bmwQNusK6VH83xlk6Vd4tls7KQOfwfQ/s1080/Good%20person%20your%20ethical%20will.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2Ne4yEB4iMX9zd_RwDqrzjnn5gynPpPZcmWI7qeXK2Aaw2W_wne8L9FoZ99rXG_CGiKr8vzsKc6-0jHUFN7w0w3CDKSYbRJ3-0YSO1Os_DYTOzONEWwmThhZWw11xZ9R6ZJL_vx5wUHOsDdFIbsuDy5sl0t0bmwQNusK6VH83xlk6Vd4tls7KQOfwfQ/w400-h400/Good%20person%20your%20ethical%20will.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">One answer in Steve’s book goes:</p></span><div><br /><span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote><span style="color: #ffa400;">“I never lie to my kids or cheat on my taxes. But if I needed to lie to protect my family, such as many Jews did during the Holocaust, then I would without question. And I’d still consider myself a good person.”</span></blockquote></span><p></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">So what’s my answer?</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">What immediately comes to mind is the saying: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Live and let live. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">One of my book releases had that theme. Maybe you were there?</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Live and let Live is something I want to live by. It goes hand in hand with the quote by Hamlet above. Who am I to say what is good or bad, right or wrong, for someone else?</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote><span style="color: #ffa400;">To me, a good person lives and lets others live in whatever way they choose. </span></blockquote><p></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Another definition that comes to my mind are the <i>10 characteristics of highly evolved beings</i> as described by Neale Donald Walsh. Out of these 10 I choose 3 to describe what a good person is to me: </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">A good person treats everyone and everything with great care and respect.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">A good person doesn’t bring anyone to justice. They do not punish.</span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">A good person reaches out with love, knowing that only love heals all wounds and transforms people. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Now, let me know what you think. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">What is a good person for you?</span></p><div><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></div></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-87429126592292617362023-05-10T06:00:00.003+02:002023-11-29T18:20:24.775+01:00How to find time in May - give yourself enough sleepHave you every stayed up late to finish “just one more thing”? <br /><br />Have you put the alarm ridiculously early one day to get some work done before the rest of the family wakes up? <br /><br /><blockquote><span style="color: #ffa400;">If you often give yourself less sleep than you need, you may be fooling yourself into thinking you are efficient, but you are really just increasing waste time while slowly wearing yourself out. </span></blockquote>This month I help you make (not waste!) time by giving yourself enough sleep. <br /><br /><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/OgyEVY54O64" width="320" youtube-src-id="OgyEVY54O64"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffa400; text-align: left;">Find time in May by giving yourself enough sleep to be efficient, beautiful, and healthy.</span><br style="text-align: left;" /><br style="text-align: left;" /><span style="text-align: left;">Follow the tips in the video to create good pre-requisites to sleep.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="color: #2b00fe; text-align: left;">Going deeper</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">To go deeper, you can read the book<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;"> </span><i style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">Why we sleep</i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;"> by Matthew Walker. You can start by checking out the </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">9 min summary by Productivity Game on <a href="https://youtu.be/-NBBFfREOkw" target="_blank">YouTube</a>.</span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;">I hope you will become efficient with your time and stay healthy by giving yourself enough</span><span style="text-align: left;"> sleep, following these pieces of advice!</span></div><br /><br />For more help to get more done with less effort and deeper joy, you can read or listen to my book <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/befe-order">Beyond Efficiency</a>. <br /><br />Do you already have the book and want to talk to me and others about how to apply what you are learning? Join the monthly<b><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/mgco-order"> Timefinder Coaching Sessions</a></span></b>!<br /><br /><blockquote><span style="color: #ffa400; font-size: medium;"><i>Take care of yourself, your time and your life. </i></span></blockquote><br />Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-8667815429475610022023-04-26T06:00:00.011+02:002023-04-26T06:00:00.141+02:00Your ethical will: What got you through your greatest challenge?<p><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome back to </span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Twelve essential questions to tell a life story</span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">. By joining me in twelve blog posts you will create what Rabbi Leder calls </span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">your ethical will</span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-ea75f341-7fff-6bf7-4c2b-68fdfcd82a8a"><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.9872; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 1pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">By answering the questions your loved ones will get to know you deeper and you will understand yourself better. Let your memories bring meaning!</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.9872; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">To join – read the blog posts, reflect on the questions and write your own answers. You are very welcome to share them in the comments.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.9872; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome on an interesting journey!</span></p><h3 dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #424242; font-size: 13pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">What got you through your greatest challenge?</span></h3><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Since Steve Leder is a rabbi he is often the first person people call when their lives fall apart. He says he has learned 3 important things from his own suffering and from supporting others in theirs. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></p><ul style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-inline-start: 48px;"><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Denial, ego, fear or shame prevent us from facing our failures, making the consequences worse than if we had dealt with these failures sooner rather than later. </span></p></li><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Pain is halved when shared with someone we trust</span></p></li><li aria-level="1" dir="ltr" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; list-style-type: disc; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><p dir="ltr" role="presentation" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">We endure challenges and learn to live and love more fully because of them.</span></p></li></ul><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Thinking about and sharing how we got through our greatest challenge will help ourselves and our loved ones face future challenges. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">One of the answers in the book resonates fully with me, I agree with every well written word in the following paragraph. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 12pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“Know the difference between adversity and disappointment, a heartbreak and a bummer. Keeping a sense of perspective has always been what has gotten me through life’s challenges. It is difficult to count our blessings when we’re in the midst of trauma, but there are alway blessings. Give yourself time to grieve, to lick your wounds. Never discount your real feelings of pain and loss, but also don’t lose yourself in them.”</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 12pt 0pt;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmlepEenOb5t2LhZcFzCUlvEL-u3gZZC3TiGQbinJga3d0jgcpWj02bLuB5GB15g66WKDhaOov3PdrBGALl2aUTKheszq-ymLsx10my3dnC8wUr1d0wfRAUCYELWfrRL3e7Gmbumzwy4LzG64NtZyilm8TesgCBmSgEC0Ov2UvoAFI61Pb2UFYYmoyIw/s1080/Going%20through%20hell%20your%20ethical%20will.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmlepEenOb5t2LhZcFzCUlvEL-u3gZZC3TiGQbinJga3d0jgcpWj02bLuB5GB15g66WKDhaOov3PdrBGALl2aUTKheszq-ymLsx10my3dnC8wUr1d0wfRAUCYELWfrRL3e7Gmbumzwy4LzG64NtZyilm8TesgCBmSgEC0Ov2UvoAFI61Pb2UFYYmoyIw/w400-h400/Going%20through%20hell%20your%20ethical%20will.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span><p></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">When I thought about my challenges, I found it hard to select one. We all experience several challenges in life and ranking them can give the faulty impression some of them weren’t that painful. When I think about the different challenges I have experienced, I find two things that got me through them. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The unwavering belief I will get through it. There simply is no other option than “getting through”. Like Winston Churchill said: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #5f6368; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">you</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">'re </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #5f6368; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">going through hell</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">, keep going. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">That’s what I do. I keep going. I don’t even consider giving up or getting stuck in despair with my feet burning. When I go through hell I keep going. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The other behaviour that helps me get through tough times, is looking beyond the misery. Finding the light in the darkness. This is one of the many wonderful things I learned from my mother. No matter how dark it is, there is always a light somewhere. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">As Elvis Presley sings in <a href="https://open.spotify.com/track/3C6pSIVeBKIbSpCFtaw1r8?si=5c0cb44a2be448b8" target="_blank">If I can dream</a>:</span></p><blockquote>Out there in the dark, there's a beckoning candle</blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">That beckoning candle guides me out of hell. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">So my advice to my loved ones when they are facing difficulties is: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Keep on walking. Hell has an end. The beckoning candle in the darkness will guide you out of it. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If you want to read more about how to get through challenges, you are welcome to read some of the blog posts I have shared over the years on this topic. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="http://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2021/03/i-thought-i-was-prepared-mum-from-book.html">I thought I was prepared mum</a></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="http://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2020/08/secure-happy-ending.html">Secure a happy ending</a></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="http://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2020/04/of-course-it-will-work-out.html">Of course it will work out</a></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="http://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2017/09/tragic-things-will-happen-and-it-will.html">Tragic things will happen - and it will be OK</a></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="http://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2017/07/so-much-love-so-much-pain.html">So much love, so much pain</a></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.68; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt;"><span style="color: #4d5156; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10.5pt; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="http://annikaslol.blogspot.com/2016/01/only-life-knows-its-length.html">Only life knows its length</a></span></p></span>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-30437304732583705722023-04-12T06:00:00.003+02:002023-11-29T18:21:02.928+01:00How to find time in April: Use business casesDo you ever wonder if you use your time well? <br /><br />You can skip the guesswork and the endless discussions in your head. <br /><br />There is a straight-forward method to making good decisions about your time. <br /><br />This month I help you choose how to use your time by using<span style="color: #ffa400;"> Business Cases</span>. <br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/A1uopV3iX1g" width="320" youtube-src-id="A1uopV3iX1g"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><b>Find time in April by creating business cases for activities you spend time on.</b></span><br style="text-align: left;" /><br style="text-align: left;" /><span style="text-align: left;">List the values and the costs and then ask yourself if the business case is a good one.</span><br style="text-align: left;" /><br style="text-align: left;" /><span style="text-align: left;">If not – get creative and find new ways.</span><br style="text-align: left;" /><br style="text-align: left;" /><span style="text-align: left;">The business case concept is an important part of the <span style="color: #ffa400;">Courageous Time Management method</span>, step 1: Create your Foundation for Holistic Time Management. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><i>Use business cases whenever you feel you are not using time the way you would like to.</i> They will give the clarity you need to use your time better. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><br />For more help to get more done with less effort and deeper joy, you can read or listen to my book <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/befe-order">Beyond Efficiency</a>.<br /><br /><br />Do you already have the book and want to talk to myself and others about how to apply what you are learning? Join the monthly <b><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/mgco-order">Timefinder Coaching Sessions</a></span></b>!<br /><span style="color: #ffa400; font-size: medium;"><i><blockquote>Take care of yourself, your time and your life. </blockquote></i></span>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-34577253589269540902023-03-22T06:00:00.001+01:002023-03-22T06:00:00.214+01:00Your ethical will: What was your biggest failure?<p><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome back to </span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Twelve essential questions to tell a life story</span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">. By joining me in twelve blog posts you will create what Rabbi Leder calls </span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">your ethical will</span><span style="color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-d420c198-7fff-937d-f457-532a8b16207f"><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.656; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 1pt 0pt 12pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">By answering the questions your loved ones will get to know you deeper and you will understand yourself better. Let your memories bring meaning!</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.656; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">To join – read the blog posts, reflect on the questions and write down your own answers. You are very welcome to share them in the comments.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.656; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; padding: 0pt 0pt 12pt 0pt;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #6a6a6a; font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome on an interesting journey!</span></p></span><h3 style="text-align: left;"><span>What was your biggest failure?</span></h3><span><br />Hmm, isn’t this a strange question? What is a failure anyway, isn’t it just a lesson? <br /><br />Maybe. <br /><br />In my experience a failure can hurt even if we learn from it. I know the failure I will tell you about still saddens me even if I have learned from it and things turned out alright in the end. <br /><br />As Steve Leder writes: <br /><br /><blockquote>“Failure is a great teacher, attacking arrogance while inviting humility, painfully yet fortunately forcing us to take a cold, hard look at our own dysfunction, its roots and its thorns.”</blockquote><br />Let’s have a look at a touching failure shared in the book: <br /><br /><blockquote>“My greatest flaw, in my view, is I could not accept my dad, who was an uneducated man damaged by his poverty-stricken upbringing, a survivor of the Holocaust who lost his first family. He was not the flawed one, I was. I just wish when my dad had dementia and said at the age of ninety-three that he didn’t think I loved him, and I said I did, that I meant it at the time. I do now!”</blockquote><p><br /></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnqqVlz4XmZlqw0BzZcfCQQZySZbtgIZQ2vfzCfQuSF_Plf8O37yzgwYnSiA3yQkjO5fYHRBwlcw0SrNf3SniwjJxhI7Mu754DtIA_PfsbtsTd_NQc0S2btcwsTPdbLkEwL0jV4nEvfDgnC3Ij1DeWoZ1frgfeasLMdgkgyxEmZLqW5PrkZywq-wo9FQ/s1080/What%20was%20your%20biggest%20failure.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnqqVlz4XmZlqw0BzZcfCQQZySZbtgIZQ2vfzCfQuSF_Plf8O37yzgwYnSiA3yQkjO5fYHRBwlcw0SrNf3SniwjJxhI7Mu754DtIA_PfsbtsTd_NQc0S2btcwsTPdbLkEwL0jV4nEvfDgnC3Ij1DeWoZ1frgfeasLMdgkgyxEmZLqW5PrkZywq-wo9FQ/w400-h400/What%20was%20your%20biggest%20failure.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /> <p></p><br />My biggest failure was letting go of Russin, a wonderful labrador-border collie mix. I grew up with dogs and never thought I would ever need to give one up. My Springer spaniel Lotti and I even won prizes at obedience competitions.<br /><br />Sure, I noticed early on Russin was more insecure than my previous dogs, but we were convinced we would be able to raise her to become a stable dog, just like we had our previous dogs. When our first child came to our family, Russin didn’t know how to deal with him. As long as he was too small to move around it was alright, but when he started crawling and standing she saw him as a threat. Then, suddenly, Russin started attacking Lotti, our other dog. They had been great friends up until then. Their fights were not just skirmishes, Lotti got badly hurt and the fights were hard for us to break up once they started. We lived in a war zone, having to keep the dogs apart and worrying about Russin possibly hurting our baby one day.<br /><br />Of course we thought we could fix it. Of course we tried. The alternative, giving up a dog was at first unthinkable. In my head that was what bad dog owners did. People who gave up too quickly, irresponsible, uncaring dog owners. Surely we weren't like that?<br /><br />In the end we realised the best for the whole family, Russin included, was to find her another family. We did. They loved her and sent us photos of her life with them for many years. </span><div><span><br /></span></div><div><span>While we tried to fix the situation we got to know great dog trainers and became more intuitive dog owners. By letting go of Russin there was eventually space in our life for Jaspis, the best possible dog for a family with by then three children. <br /><br />Still.<br /><br />Despite all the learnings and all good things coming from this situation, I still hurt when I think about Russin looking at us through the rear-window of her new owners’ car. <br /><br /><blockquote>To my wonderful Russin, now in heaven since long,<br /><br />I am sorry things didn’t turn out as intended even though they did turn out well in the end. Love you forever.<br /><br />Matte Annika</blockquote><br /></span></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-87839863085845916282023-03-08T06:00:00.002+01:002023-11-29T18:21:58.774+01:00How to find time in March: Plan what fitsDo you mostly get all the things you plan done?<div><br /></div><div>If not, do you blame yourself?<div><br />Don’t. <br /><br />Blaming yourself reduces energy and joy and increases waste-time.<div><br />This month I help you get out of the feeling of always being behind.<div><br /></div><div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/IITlqs6VqW8" width="320" youtube-src-id="IITlqs6VqW8"></iframe></div><br /> <br /><br /><span id="docs-internal-guid-fd40a9f8-7fff-ca0c-9d8f-2b156d37ee5f">Find time in March by planning only what can fit in a week rather than what you think you should get done. Remember, you simply cannot fit 300 hours of work into a 168 hour week. <h3 dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 30pt; margin-right: 30pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin: 0pt 30pt;"><br /></h3><span style="font-size: medium;">When you fully accept this and dare to say no to yourself and others, you will <span style="color: #ffa400;">focus </span>on what you can get done and to your surprise you will get more done than when you freak out about the things that do not fit.</span></span></div><div><br /></div><div><span style="font-size: medium;">I hope you will find the courage to say no to the things that will not fit in your glass of time, so you can focus on and enjoy the things that do!</span></div></div></div></div><br />For more help to get more done with less effort and deeper joy, you can read or listen to my book <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/befe-order">Beyond Efficiency</a>. <br /><br />Do you already have the book and want to talk to myself and others about how to apply what you are learning? Join the monthly <span style="color: #2b00fe;"><b><a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/mgco-order">Timefinder Coaching Sessions</a></b></span>!<br /><blockquote><span style="color: #ffa400; font-size: medium;"><b><i>Take care of yourself, your time and your life. </i></b></span></blockquote>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-20805943334217731012023-02-22T06:00:00.001+01:002023-02-22T06:00:00.171+01:00Your ethical will: What makes you happy?<p><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome back to <i><span style="color: #ffa400;">Twelve essential questions to tell a life story</span></i>. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre-wrap;">Join me in twelve blog posts and create what Rabbi Leder calls your<span style="color: #ffa400;"> ethical will</span>.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-f5195dcb-7fff-307a-f969-a32f7988f324"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">By answering the questions your loved ones will get to know you deeper and you will understand yourself better. Let your memories bring meaning!</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">To join – read the blog posts, reflect on the questions and write down your own answers. You are very welcome to share them in the comments.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome on an interesting journey!</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4NVZ-_5ti-KHI4yDP2AJ48LP2idAA8SS6Ilh6_3A2LHRB05t_exXp9MIAQsvKFZ2y3BVPNwW-bRPt8yRZySJK-pvLSEvTjxH77_9MwlZGZHNBZ-T2HMM9jCbtEf-cAWAz1-NAeTOrd8THGD7hH8pFXAWjF1KVbPt0yKL_74Az41zZTCY_jE8zGnS2rg/s1080/What%20makes%20you%20happy.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4NVZ-_5ti-KHI4yDP2AJ48LP2idAA8SS6Ilh6_3A2LHRB05t_exXp9MIAQsvKFZ2y3BVPNwW-bRPt8yRZySJK-pvLSEvTjxH77_9MwlZGZHNBZ-T2HMM9jCbtEf-cAWAz1-NAeTOrd8THGD7hH8pFXAWjF1KVbPt0yKL_74Az41zZTCY_jE8zGnS2rg/w400-h400/What%20makes%20you%20happy.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span><p></p><h4 dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 4pt; margin-top: 14pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-weight: 400; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #ffa400;">What makes you happy and what life lessons can be drawn from that?</span></span></h4><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I hope you, like I, have lots of answers to the question about what makes you happy. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If I would have answered this in my youth, the answer would have been dancing. I loved dancing, being part of a show dance group, teach kids how to dance, prepare the choreography… I loved all of it. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Another thing that immediately comes to mind is driving my motorcycle. I loved it as soon as I sat on the back of a motorcycle and I have been driving since I was sixteen. The freedom, the roar of the engine, the smells that reach me through the helmet… I love all of that too. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Then of course the things that have always been part of my life. Walking my wonderful dogs, being with my family, travelling and exploring. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Working also makes me happy. Solving difficult problems with skilled people. Hearing from my clients how I have helped change their lives. Of course that makes me happy. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Last and far from least. The reason you are reading this is because I love to read and to write. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">When reading about Happiness in the book</span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> For you when I am gone</span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">, I see I differ from Steve’s description of happiness. His conclusion is that happiness is togetherness. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Hmm… </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Several of the things I mentioned above I do alone. Riding my Gladius, reading and writing. Maybe I enjoy the togetherness with my motorcycle, the author of the book I am reading and the characters in the stories I write. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Or I am simply a person who finds happiness both in togetherness and solitude. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">There is another description in the book that I understand better. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“We tend to think about happiness as a singular event or a spontaneous moment in time caused by external factors we do not control - a sort of lucky surprise, like winning the lottery without buying a ticket. But in most cases real happiness requires a process and is the distillate of mindful living day after week after month, and even decades of intention.”</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><b><i>My advice for my loved ones - do what makes you happy. If not every second, then at least every day. That is the only way to live life fully. </i></b></span></p><br /><h3 style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Now it’s your turn!</span></h3><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">What makes you happy and what life lessons can your loved ones draw from that?</span></p><div><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></div></span>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-6695014022696402262023-02-08T06:00:00.003+01:002023-11-29T18:22:42.500+01:00How to find time in February - One simple questionHave you ever been in a meeting that doesn’t end at the planned time, stressing out about being late for the next meeting - or worse - late for picking up your kids? <br /><br />There is a simple way to avoid this kind of stress. <br /><br />All it takes is asking yourself one question... <br /><br />This month I give you a simple but powerful tool to manage your time, all day every day.<br /><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/KNoW96IbZHM" width="320" youtube-src-id="KNoW96IbZHM"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>Find time in February, by asking yourself: <div><br /></div><div><blockquote>How do I want to use my time?</blockquote>Throughout the day. <br /><h4 style="text-align: left;">When something takes longer than planned</h4>Pause and ask yourself how you want to use your time. <div>Continue or stop? </div><div>Stay in the meeting or suggest concluding it and schedule a new one for the remaining agenda items?</div><h4 style="text-align: left;">When something goes faster than planned</h4><div>Ask yourself how you want to use the “extra time” so you don’t end up wasting it.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><h4 style="text-align: left;"><span id="docs-internal-guid-d05377c5-7fff-8760-4c33-7e88f441d8e9"><p dir="ltr" style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">For more help to get more done with less effort and deeper joy, you can read or listen to my book <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/befe-order">Beyond Efficiency</a>. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">Do you already have the book and want to talk to me and others about how to apply what you are learning? </span></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">Join the monthly </span><span style="color: #2b00fe;"><a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/mgco-order">Timefinder Coaching Sessions</a></span><span style="font-weight: normal;">!</span></span></p><blockquote><span style="color: #ffa400;"><i>Take care of yourself, your time and your life. </i></span></blockquote></span><p></p><br /></h4></div></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-81652149086059368192023-01-25T06:00:00.001+01:002023-01-25T06:00:00.166+01:00Your ethical will: When was a time you led with your heart?<p><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome back to <i>Twelve essential questions to tell a life story</i>. By joining me in twelve blog posts you will create what Rabbi Leder calls </span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">your ethical will</span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">.</span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-8c1ecdaa-7fff-85a8-9c54-ce46e2d2a049"><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">By answering the questions your loved ones will get to know you deeper and you will understand yourself better. Let your memories bring meaning!</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">To join – read the blog posts, reflect on the questions and write down your own answers. You are very welcome to share them in the comments.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Welcome on an interesting journey!</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 12pt; margin-top: 12pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">When was a time you led with your heart?</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">My spontaneous answer is that I lead with my heart most of the time. I want to follow my heart and take my head with me. Following my heart is easy. Discerning the voice of my heart from the voice of my head can be harder. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I attended a course with author and teacher Jeffrey Allen who described how he used to think he had no intuition. Then he learned to listen to and follow his intuition. It wasn’t until then he realised he had always followed it.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">It is the same for me about following my heart. The more I follow it, the more I understand I "always have". Thanks to following my heart I have found the love of my life, a home I love and I have written stories that touch hearts and open minds. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I have selected one important time I led with my heart that I will share with you. Before I do, let’s have a look at one of the answers in the book </span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-style: italic; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">For you when I am gone</span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">:</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">"When I was eighteen years old , I ran after a handsome twenty-year-old boy and blocked him from entering the restroom at a restaurant we were both dining at. I knew him - he wasn’t a stranger. I said to him, </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“When you get rid of her” - he had a girlfriend at the time - “and you will… give me a call.” Then I ran back to my table. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">A year and a half later he did. [...] The rest is history."</span></p></blockquote><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">A time I led with my heart was when I decided to leave the great career I had to become my own boss. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If you follow me on LinkedIn or if you have listened to one of the podcasts I have been a guest on, you will recognize this story. </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjORyGStt_jwfXV__W6kn2skG5ACQa2Joh_TTzDCV1OKa7WiSaPy4_QAbPWQmh7AkvI2UdRZBLLWb8RuNhfLim3AINtnaLHhh4bvAYMAGHaYi9wFlieFCBnkOI5CSfmfe0Ifhopo2V8zB6Gu-q6foku9DYSspsbx8dF1OBpoDj2bc6BG_z59TQ5fmhjJQ/s1080/Won't%20be%20here%20when%20I%20turn%2050.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjORyGStt_jwfXV__W6kn2skG5ACQa2Joh_TTzDCV1OKa7WiSaPy4_QAbPWQmh7AkvI2UdRZBLLWb8RuNhfLim3AINtnaLHhh4bvAYMAGHaYi9wFlieFCBnkOI5CSfmfe0Ifhopo2V8zB6Gu-q6foku9DYSspsbx8dF1OBpoDj2bc6BG_z59TQ5fmhjJQ/w400-h400/Won't%20be%20here%20when%20I%20turn%2050.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span><p></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 16pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I won’t be here when I turn 50</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">One of my colleagues turned 50, so we were celebrating her in the office by the riverside.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">As she talked about how she hadn’t planned to stay so long at this company I nodded in recognition. Before working at that company, I had changed companies every 2-3 years. But, as my colleague was saying, this company was large enough to satisfy her (and my) need for growth and variation.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Then there was this voice in my head, saying “I won’t be here when I turn 50.”</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I didn’t know then, but I know now that it was my intuition talking.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Just before I turned 50 I left the interesting company I had worked so long for, to work full time in my own company.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Not because I wanted to “escape corporate” but because it was time. Time for new adventures.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I haven't regretted it a second - but if I hadn't dared to take that step I would have regretted not doing it many times over by now. </span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 16pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">My advice to my loved ones: </span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Intuition whispers while conviction shouts.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If you hear or feel it, don’t ignore it. It may be guiding you to something fantastic.</span></p><br /><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 16pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Now it’s your turn.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><span face="Roboto, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; font-size: 10.5pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">When was a time you led with your heart?</span></p><br /><br /><br /></span>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-74518443500616200562023-01-11T06:00:00.004+01:002023-11-29T18:27:49.916+01:00How to find time in January - Use 3 types of plans<div>Are you all excited about the new year? <br /><br />Eager to achieve and experience new things? <br /><br />I hope so! I know I am.<br /><br />Are you also worried you may not get them done? <br />Maybe you worry about losing energy and enthusiasm on the way or getting overwhelmed.<br />No need to worry. </div><div><span style="color: #ffa400;">By using 3 types of straight-forward plans you can stay balanced, on track and out of last-minute rush!<br /></span><br /><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/nh9cxOUKhpk" width="320" youtube-src-id="nh9cxOUKhpk"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;">Find time in January, by introducing and using 3 levels of plans:</h3><h4 style="text-align: left;">Your weekly plan.</h4>Make sure you spend your week in ways that give energy and room for what you want. Only then can you use your time efficiently. You can learn more about weekly planning <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/htmdoc-weekly-order">here</a>. <br /><br /></div><div><h4 style="text-align: left;">Your Daily plan.</h4>Keep yourself on track without overloading your brain. Focus on 3 wanted outcomes, keep track of all deadlines and appointments and see anything else as bonus. You can learn more about daily planning <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/planning-daily-order">here.</a> <br /><br /></div><div><h4 style="text-align: left;">Your monthly plan.</h4>Avoid last-minute rush and unnecessary collisions with a monthly outlook. No need to go into details, just look ahead and see how you can be ready for different events and appointments. You can learn more about monthly planning <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/planning-monthly-order">here</a>.</div><div><br /></div><div><br />These 3 types of plans have helped many, I hope they will help you achieve what you want this year, in a balanced and fun way!<br /></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-57700593243569737182022-12-14T06:00:00.003+01:002023-11-27T10:57:17.792+01:00Wrap up the year in a way that feels good - do a WINE analysis. <p>Welcome to December, a perfect month to look back on the year in a way that gives energy and insight for the year ahead.</p><p>I suggest that you do a WINE analysis of the year that is now coming to an end. </p><p><span style="color: #ffa400;"><b><i>You will shift the focus from "all the things you didn't get done" to the things you have experienced and achieved this year.</i></b></span></p><p>This will empower you and give you a great platform for new goals next year!</p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/G0Pd3XwsFiw" width="320" youtube-src-id="G0Pd3XwsFiw"></iframe></div><div class="row content" style="-webkit-box-direction: normal; -webkit-box-orient: horizontal; background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; display: flex; flex-flow: wrap; margin: 50px -20px;"><div class="col-lg-8-12 col-md-6-6 with-h-underlines text" style="box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px 20px; width: 799.99px;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.9375rem;"><span style="font-family: Roboto, sans-serif;">We are used to focusing on all the things we have not yet done. Too often we beat ourselves up about it. This drains our energy and makes us even less likely to achieve future goals.</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.9375rem;"><span style="font-family: Roboto, sans-serif;"><b><i><span style="color: #ffa400;">What we often forget is that we get things done and we experience and achieve things all the time. Recognising this increases our energy and our chances of achieving more in the future.</span></i></b></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.9375rem;"><span style="font-family: Roboto, sans-serif;">What I suggest you do in December is to take some time out, together with your loved ones if you can, and do a WINE analysis.</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0.9375rem;"><span style="font-family: Roboto, sans-serif;">WINE is an acronym for</span></p><ul style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; list-style-type: none; margin: 0.9375rem 0px; padding-left: 15px;"><li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-top: 0px; position: relative;">Winning</li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-top: 0.625rem; position: relative;">Influence</li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-top: 0.625rem; position: relative;">Needed</li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-top: 0.625rem; position: relative;">Enjoyment</li></ul><p style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0.9375rem 0px;">Reflecting about what you have experienced this year in these 4 areas in 3 of your life spheres is likely to make you happy and proud!</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0.9375rem 0px;"><span class="image-container" style="box-sizing: border-box; display: block; margin: 1.25rem 0px;"><img alt="Image from HTM Planner" class="lazy loaded" data-ll-status="loaded" data-src="https://asset.sdm.sanitydesk.com/images/welcomeannikaslolcom.c.sanitydesk.com/211_1610394717.jpg" src="https://asset.sdm.sanitydesk.com/images/welcomeannikaslolcom.c.sanitydesk.com/211_1610394717.jpg" style="border-radius: 5px; border-style: none; box-sizing: border-box; display: block; height: auto; max-width: 100%;" /></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0.9375rem 0px;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #ed7d31;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Instructions for How to find time in December:</span></em></span></p><ol style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin: 0.9375rem 0px; padding-left: 30px;"><li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-top: 0px;">Set aside one hour for reflection. Alone or with your loved ones.</li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; margin-top: 0.625rem;">Sit down with pen and paper (or computer if you turn off notifications that distract you) and look at each area and life sphere in the WINE analysis. Write down what you have achieved and experienced in these areas. Celebrate and enjoy! Learn and grow!</li></ol><p style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0.9375rem 0px;">This template is available in my <b><i><span style="color: #2b00fe;">Holistic Time Management Planner </span></i></b>(available on Amazon).</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0.9375rem 0px;">If you don't have or want the planner, just create your own table. </p><p style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0.9375rem 0px 0px;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #ed7d31;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">I hope you will enjoy reflecting about the year and finding energy and time!</span></span></em></p></div></div>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1139719091614450014.post-74182066786498537502022-12-07T06:00:00.002+01:002022-12-07T06:00:00.178+01:00Your ethical will: What do you regret?<p> Welcome to
Twelve essential questions to tell a life story. By joining me in twelve blogposts
you will create what Rabbi Leder calls <i>your ethical will</i>.</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">By
answering the questions your loved ones will get to know you deeper and you
will understand yourself better. Let your memories bring meaning!<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">To join –
read the blogposts, reflect on the questions and write down your own answers.
You are very welcome to share them in the comments but you can of course also
keep your answers in a document that is for your eyes only for now. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Welcome on
an interesting journey!<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><br /></span></p>
<h2 style="text-align: left;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What do you
regret?</span></h2>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Before I
give my answer, I will share one of the answers in the book <i>For you when I
am gone</i>: <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"></span></p><blockquote>“I spent too
much time comparing, judging, seeking approval, being hurt, wanting approval,
looking outward for happiness. Now I want to forgive, to accept people for who
and how they are. I can’t waste time trying to change them, I can only change
my expectations of them. I don’t want to spend time anymore being hurt.”</blockquote><o:p></o:p><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">This makes
me think of Anouk’s wonderful song: <i>I don’t wanna hurt</i>, a song Jenny
sings in my book <a href="https://timefinder.annikaslol.com/jenny-jenny" target="_blank">Jenny, Jenny </a>/ <a href="https://www.amazon.de/dp/B09HNZ8ZSM" target="_blank">Love, guilt, and motorcycles</a>. You can find the song on <a href="https://open.spotify.com/track/2ZiRiPXE929bStanWOgVES?si=2c8946e683644113" target="_blank">Spotify</a>. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">When I
first saw this question I frowned. I don’t believe in regret. As you may know I
am a Timefinder and regrets and worry should be avoided. They are major time-
and energy wasters. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">But I
believed Steve Leder knew what he was talking about, so I gave it some more
thought. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What if I
looked at the question about regret as something I wish I would have done
differently, even if I don’t dwell on it anymore? When looking at it that way I
found answers that indeed helped me understand myself better. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijrNXcaFY1QPVNH9AwadLPbKjfpguDnAe99BUcIM9DtAXFLjFcbqO35Vdt4FhB-w74f7OM4fcfD4dPWgVDvu2MAaznEkKpgJE3g-n_LV-wsJidE8DnxPwfSbcb5ClRxE_WoQCW_pks6q_8jlzP93ISXS2_GLDsgTvn3k_38JmN9pRmsq51zoJ8414W2w/s1080/Listen%20to%20your%20heart.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijrNXcaFY1QPVNH9AwadLPbKjfpguDnAe99BUcIM9DtAXFLjFcbqO35Vdt4FhB-w74f7OM4fcfD4dPWgVDvu2MAaznEkKpgJE3g-n_LV-wsJidE8DnxPwfSbcb5ClRxE_WoQCW_pks6q_8jlzP93ISXS2_GLDsgTvn3k_38JmN9pRmsq51zoJ8414W2w/s320/Listen%20to%20your%20heart.png" width="320" /></a></div><br /><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><br /></span><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">There are
things I have done that didn’t work out as intended. I don’t regret these, not
if they felt right in the moment. What I do regret is when I did something that
felt downright wrong in the moment and I reasoned myself into thinking it was
the right thing to do anyway. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">This was when
our first son was a baby. I had started working again and it was my husband’s
turn to be on paternity leave. When I had put our son to sleep I had often put
him in bed with me. My husband wanted to teach him to sleep in his own bed and at
times would leave him there before he had fallen asleep, even if he would
scream and cry. My husband had been told that was the way to do it. "If you fuss
with them they will never stop. Let them scream. Eventually they will calm down
and fall asleep."<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Everytime
my son would scream and my husband wouldn’t go into him I had a physical
reaction. My heart, my instincts, everything inside of me shouted: <b><i>Go to him.
Pick him up. Comfort him</i></b>. Instead I listened to my head. It’s my husband’s turn.
I can’t tell him how to do it. He does it his way, I do it my way. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Sometimes I
would walk out of the house since I just couldn’t stand hearing the crying
without doing something about it. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">This regret
is not because something turned out badly. Our oldest son is just fine. <b><i>What I
regret was not listening to my heart. </i></b><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"></span></p><blockquote><span style="font-size: medium;">My advice
to my loved ones: Listen to your heart. It may lead you into thorny, difficult
situations at times but you will never regret following that inner voice. </span></blockquote><o:p></o:p><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Now it’s
your turn:</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What do you
regret?<o:p></o:p></span></p>Annika Rosendahlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11337541387406352802noreply@blogger.com0