One way of helping yourself be energetic is by giving yourself the kind of nutrition that gives energy and health.
You don’t have to learn a new, fancy diet.
Jill went on tour with Tomboola Band when she was 14 years old. How did her parents dare to let her go on tour that young?
Jill says her parents knew she was a good girl; they could trust her.
When it comes to what Jill lets her teenage daughter do she differentiates between real dangers and her own fears. We learn by living and Jill doesn’t want to stifle her daughter’s learning because of fear.
By trusting your loved ones, you will spend less time and energy worrying and controlling them. Not only will you save time and energy, you will also take good care of your relationships with this approach.
When Jill was 22 years old she fell in love with a man who had children from a previous relationship. She did all she could to fit in, and she managed. Jill became a valued part of the family. In hindsight she sees that it came at a cost. She is proud of what she did for others, but not proud about losing herself on the way. When she learned to use what she calls ”the magical word No” she found a way to combine the two.
Lesson 2: Care for yourself and others
Giving all you have to others will eventually dry you up. If you care for yourself and others you will continuously have a well to take and give from.
Caring for yourself is a great gift to people around you. Learning to powerfully say no is an important part of that. We recently had a webinar about this in the Timefinder Academy and I am adding it to my leadership courses so I can help more people with this.
Jill’s career has gone well, so well she got overwhelmed. She went to see a therapist. At first she found it embarrassing so she called it stress management. Now she says that everyone who can afford it should talk to a therapist.
“In reality I am paying to talk to myself”, she says, going on to say that if she doesn’t reflect her soul falls behind. It’s not until she stops to think and feel that it catches up again.
Lesson 3: Let your soul catch up
When you take time to reflect about life, your soul catches up with you. Going to a therapist/coach/friend can help you talk to yourself.
We often underestimate the power of reflection. I hope you don’t. It is a core part of all coaching and training I give.
You can start here and now.
Pick one day in the week or one time in the day when you set aside a few minutes to reflect about your day or week. This will automatically calm you down and will most likely remind you about things you would have otherwise forgotten. Believe me, it is worth these few minutes.
I am wrapping up this blogpost with one of Jill’s songs. It has inspired my husband and I to include “Roots and Wings” in our visions for how we want to live.
Just cause you got roots
Doesn’t mean you can’t have wings
You can listen to it on Spotify here.
This month I am helping you move away from continuous urgency.That requires using the Eisenhower Matrix with a twist.
The key is to spend more time in the “sweet spot”, working on what is not yet urgent but still important, even when you feel that you “don’t have time”.
“Think of an entrepreneur”, the teacher in my middle son’s class said.
Before you read on, please do the same. Think of an entrepreneur.
Then the teacher said:
“Raise your hand if you thought of a woman.”
My son was the only one raising his hand.
What about you? Did you think of a woman?
It is easy to go for the first names we think of. The ones we often see in the news.
Like Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Richard Branson.
There are, of course, many women entrepreneurs too.
Let me mention five in this text – and then I would love to read your examples in the comments!
Oprah Winfrey – founder of media company Harpo Inc. and co-founder of Oxygen Media. She is also the queen of talk shows and an overall impressive woman.
Annie Tao – co-founder of Horizon Robotics, a company that provides embedded Artificial Intelligence solutions.
Dolly Parton – owner of several businesses including the theme park Dollywood and the pet apparel line Doggy Parton. And then she is of course a marvellous singer-songwriter.Gunilla von Platen - founder of customer relationship company Xzakt
Josefin Landgård - co-founder of KRY, the app-based service for meeting doctors through video meetings in Sweden.
Please add women entrepreneurs you admire in the comments!
PS. When I asked my son what woman entrepreneur he had thought about he said:
That made it to my list of magic moments!
"What do you do?" he asked, the guy who studied Dutch in the same course as I did.
"I study at Chalmers", I answered. At the time I did a full time study at Chalmers Technical University and a part time study in Dutch at Gothenburg university.
He opened his eyes wide and said:
"Oh, then you're intelligent."
After that, this guy who had been very talkative and almost flirty (even though I had said at the beginning of the course I was studying Dutch since I had a Dutch boyfriend) avoided me. My choice of education scared him.
Have you ever refrained from doing or saying something because you didn't want to make someone else feel uncomfortable?
I know women who walk hunched over to not tower over shorter men. My beautiful mum found the attention her beauty resulted in umcomfortable. I coach women who sneak away to work on their computer because they don't want their family to consider them overly ambitious.
We cannot help others feel better by making ourselves smaller.
We cannot make the world brighter if we dim our lights.
I hope you will always dare to shine your light brightly.
For more reflection on this topic, watch this 3 min video.
Saknar du en älskad person som har lämnat den här jorden?
Välkommen till Tid för reflektion om Liv och död
Ge dig själv 12 minuter idag eller senare i den här veckan, till att reflektera över liv och död och känna tacksamhet för båda delarna.
Death is not the opposite of life, but a part of it / Haruki Murakami
Med hjälp av högläsning guidar jag din reflektion som du kan skriva ner medan du lyssnar på musik framförd av Staffan Bonnier.
Denna video är från min bokrelease av boken Tack Mamma.
Jag hoppas att den rör ditt hjärta och öppnar ditt sinne.
Skriv gärna dina reflektioner som kommentarer till det här inlägget.
“I’m 44 now, I can’t change careers. It’s too late to start all over.”
Your dreams don’t have an expiration date.