6/2/20

Your best is all there is


When people reproached me not to have succeeded in changing his mind on climate change, I tell them I did my best.
French President Emmanuel Macron about his discussions with President Donald Trump 
The only thing we can ever do is our best. 
When our best isn’t good enough, there is no reason to feel bad. 
You did the best you could and that’s all anyone can ever ask of you.
Including yourself.
Also remember that we learn as long as we live.
Your best a year ago is different from your best now.
Don’t reproach yourself (or others!) about past performances.
Most likely you did the best with what you knew then, and now that you know better you will do better.
As a line manager, I coached my employees following these 3 guidelines:
·       Always do your best·       Continuously improve·       Take care of yourself and your team
Once you do this, you have done everything a company or a person (including yourself!) can eveask from you.
Your best is all there is.

Let it be enough.

5/19/20

Stressed? Bite a pen


Stressed? Bite a pen!




This unusual advice was given by Ami Hemviken at Passion for Projects in Malmö.

The intention is not to bite away your frustration and stop yourself from screaming. The intention is to fool yourself into thinking you are smiling.

It is hardly surprising that smiling makes you happier. What might be less known is that a fake smile will also do the trick. If you’re so stressed and angry you can’t make yourself smile, biting a pen will be good enough.

Changing how you feel by changing your physiology is one of the fastest ways to change your state.

Feel worried, stressed, frustrated?

Bite a pen, stand in a wonder woman pose, or raise your arms above your head in a victory pose.

The worst thing that can happen is that someone will see you and laugh. And voilà, you will have made them feel better 😊.

5/5/20

How to deal with criticism - a tip from "the president of the rich"

“I don’t mind if it’s fair or not, to be honest with you. I am in charge, and I am the leader, so I take it.”
Image: Part of a photo by Christopher Anderson for TIME.

French president Emmanuel Macron about being called “the president of the rich”.

We all fear two things:

Not being loved and not being enough.

When we get criticized these exact fears get activated.

It is not possible to be liked by everyone, anymore than it is possible for a song to be liked by everyone. Think about it; being on the top of the charts doesn’t mean everyone likes your song. It only means the majority does.

We all want everyone to love what we do and who we are, but that will never happen.

The majority might like what you do, but there will always be those who think differently.

There is only one way to avoid criticism:
Say nothing, Do nothing, Be nothing.
Another, in my opinion better, way is to do as Monsieur Macron.
Just take it and move on.

4/21/20

Making the most of working from home


Remember the photos we used to see on social media, of people working from home or cafés? With headlines like: “Today’s office”. The intention was often to show off a free lifestyle. I see less of these photos today. 

When a majority works from home, there is no point in boasting about it, is there?

I am a person who enjoys working from home.

I hope these tips can help you do the same. 

Working from home with Dixon

WFH ≠ WATT (Working All The Time)


Just because you can easily join a meeting from home at midnight, doesn’t mean you are suddenly expected to.

If you want to feel “off” at certain times of the day, set your work hours (and your non-work hours) and stick to them.

Instead of just copying the work hours you have when you work at the office, find what works best now.

Maybe you want to start earlier since you don’t need to commute and instead take a long lunch walk? Or an energizing afternoon nap?

Use this time to really choose your work hours. You may even find energizing routines that will work also when you are back in office again.

Dress for success

One of my coaching clients said that I always look “so fresh” in our video calls. Was that because I see video meetings from home as work meetings?

YES!

Where I am is irrelevant. When I give someone a service, I dress accordingly.

When I give keynote speeches I wear colourful clothes that stand out. Clothes that set the tone.

When I work with coaching clients online or give webinars, I dress as if I am going to work – because I am.

When I write my next book I wear comfortable dresses or training clothes.
Working From Home can be a perfect time to go for casual and comfortable. But if you find it easier to stay professional by dressing the same way you do when you go the office - do it even if the office is in your house. 

Your home is still your home

Even if your home is also an office, that doesn’t mean all of your home has to be your office. 
Take the time to create a space to work. A space where you can work comfortably rather than forcing yourself to sit or stand in positions that will give you neck and back pain. 

Even more importantly – decide where not to work. 
What areas in your home are off-limits for work?
This could be bedrooms or maybe the room where you eat. 

WFH = WTWIW (Work The Way I Want)

Make the most of working from home by finding how to work the way you want.

4/14/20

Cashmere sweaters or therapy?

“Jag lägger hellre pengar på kashmirtröjor än dyr terapi.”
“I'd rather spend money on cashmere sweaters than expensive therapy.”
Karina Ericsson Wärn, headmaster at Beckmans College of Design



Image by 4cruzetam from Pixabay

It is easy to look at this statement and assume that Karina is a “material girl” who thinks happiness comes from things.

But when she explains what cashmere sweaters give her, we get a different view:

They give her Courage, Confidence and “Headmaster power”.

Who wouldn’t want Courage, Confidence and Power?

There is no such thing as right or wrong.

It is only about what works and what doesn’t, for you.

What makes you confident, courageous and powerful?

Hopefully you are these 3 things, regardless of circumstances.

But if you are not, use whatever you need to build your courage, strengthen your confidence and believe in your power.

One day you will notice that you are only wearing the cashmere sweater because you like it, not because you need it.

4/7/20

Of course it will work out

My friend Lisbeth used to say:

Det är klart att det löser sig, men det löser sig inte av sig självt. 
(Of course it will work out, but not by itself.)

I think this philosophy is profound and useful in its simplicity.

Fearful and stressed minds are not able to innovate, they are not able to look for solutions.

Believing it will work out doesn’t mean that you just Wait and See.

You can Wait and Do.

Once you truly believe that things will work out, you will have the peace of mind to do things that make a positive difference.

Actually, even better than doing is being.

You can Wait and Be.

Be the person you want to be, no matter what the circumstances are. A person who makes a positive difference.

The way you are will influence others and one day you will notice it has worked out.

Thanks to your way of being, thanks to your belief that it would work out.

I know Lisbeth is looking at us from heaven, with a smile on her face and her feet dangling from the edge of a cloud.



She knows we will be fine.

You do too.

Just Wait and Be.


3/3/20

Motivating others starts with you

“That celebration cake didn’t work either. No one in my team cares about the outcome of the project.” Victor walked up to Manda’s desk. He was so frustrated and moved so fast the papers blew off her desk as he walked by.

“Sorry”, he mumbled as he bent down to pick them up. “Why are you still here by the way? It’s late.”

“We have a bug blocking the delivery. Me and my team are staying until...”

“What have you promised them? Overtime food? Some kind of bonus? I have tried virtually everything but in the end no one will do anything extra unless I order them to.”

“I haven’t ordered anyone anything. But we all know how important it is to get this fixed.”

“Well, yes, I thought everyone in my project knew what was important too. But I just can’t motivate them.”

Manda stopped looking at the screen and looked at Victor as he put the papers in piles on her desk. In the wrong order, but she knew better than to mention that now.

“You can’t motivate others”, she said.

“What do you mean? Your people are motivated.”

“I like my project. You work hard on yours out of obligation. How can you expect your team to be motivated when you aren’t?”


Photo by Brooke Lark on Unsplash

“You can’t add fuel to someone else’s flame if you’re a wet blanket.”
John Maxwell
As always – start with yourself.

Know yourself.
If you want others to be inspired, be inspired.